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The Fair Play Deck: A Couple's Conversation Deck for Prioritizing What's Important
Based on the Reese's Book Club Pick and New York Times best-seller Fair Play, this couple's conversation deck will help you rebalance your to-do lists, reclaim your time, and rediscover and nurture the skills and interests that make you uniquely you.
Whether you just moved in together, hit a snag in your domestic bliss, or are struggling to keep with your growing family, this adaptable card deck will help you balance the work needed to keep your household humming. Here's what you're going to do:
1) Sit with your partner for an hour when you're relaxed and feeling good (food and drink help!)
2) Lay out all the task cards, choose only the ones that apply to your family, and take turns deciding which tasks you'll own completely
3) Claim your Unicorn Space cards, which allow you time and space to develop and pursue activities and skills that bring you joy--whether it's learning a new language, playing music, or training for a marathon
Setting both of you up for success in your relationship and parenting, The Fair Play Deck will change the way you think and talk about your home life.
Whether you just moved in together, hit a snag in your domestic bliss, or are struggling to keep with your growing family, this adaptable card deck will help you balance the work needed to keep your household humming. Here's what you're going to do:
1) Sit with your partner for an hour when you're relaxed and feeling good (food and drink help!)
2) Lay out all the task cards, choose only the ones that apply to your family, and take turns deciding which tasks you'll own completely
3) Claim your Unicorn Space cards, which allow you time and space to develop and pursue activities and skills that bring you joy--whether it's learning a new language, playing music, or training for a marathon
Setting both of you up for success in your relationship and parenting, The Fair Play Deck will change the way you think and talk about your home life.
Readers Top Reviews
Angela Sonja Cort
When i started using the deck i realised how many things are missing from it and stikl had to make lists and thibk of everyhring myself. The colours arw very boring. Therefore i am returning it.
C. JonesAngela So
My husband and I have been using the Fair Play system, based on reading the book Fair Play, for about eight months now. Although the book isn't perfect, the system is working for us and we adapt it to fit our lives. When I first finished reading the book, like many people I asked, "Where are the cards?" Then I realized the game is a metaphor and you can use whatever system you like. We have been using a Trello board with digital cards. So when this physical deck was released, I thought it would be a waste of money and a hard pass. Then I decided to give it a try, because these are hard discussions and any tool that makes it easier might just be worth it. It turns out I like the cards! Our biggest struggle with Fair Play is the looooong conversations. There are a lot of cards, and a lot to figure out together. Even with a pared down deck and relatively low housekeeping standards. I don't send Christmas cards, lol. The book doesn't give a lot of examples about how a Fair Play meeting might go. It all looks easy, but as you begin to have these meetings you can really get lost in the weeds. I found that this deck of cards encouraged us to be quick about it. Instead of yakking at length, we quickly flipped through the cards and grabbed the ones we needed to. Having a physical deck puts the emphasis on simply *taking* the card. Sure, we need to have conversations about standards too, and the fact that we've been using this system helped move things along. But I found the cards sped things up, made it easy to visualize the act of "taking on" a responsibility, and even made it easy to quickly trade and do the exercise of considering what our spouse was holding. I am taking off one star because the cards should include some more definition about what goes into each task. While these can be found on the website and in the book, if you're paying for a printed deck, some version of it should be on the card in your hands. A lot of space is wasted by having the back of each card look (mostly) identical, like traditional playing cards. Put some CPE info there instead.
Rachel DC. JonesA
These are great. If you truly deal out the system every week I am sure they are invaluable. I'm new to the system and thought these would be a good cheat sheet for me to begin as I just finished Eve's book (and loved it). I was hoping each card would have the CPE checklist on it found on the Fair Play website. I get that it probably wouldn't look as good or maybe wouldn't even fit on the card. Most people probably don't need to be told the minutiae of what "doing the dishes" means, but my partner and I do! Just thought there were lots of helpful reminders in the checklists on the website and was hoping that would be part of the resource. Other than that, they look great.
