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Calling in "The One" Revised and Expanded: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life
The classic guide to finding love and creating life-altering miracles of happiness and fulfillment, now revised and updated with new insights, stories, teaching points, and transformational exercises.
Are you frustrated by stymied relationships, missed connections, and the loneliness of the search for someone to spend the rest of your life with? In this classic, updated guide to finding deep happiness in love, licensed marriage and family therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas bridges the gap between wanting to find true love and being truly available to create a fulfilling relationship. Love-seekers today have to deal with a precarious terrain of dating and partnering that seems to encourage a lack of commitment and clarity. Calling in "The One" will empower you to have a radically different experience by shifting your painful patterns in love from the inside out, graduating you from unsatisfying relationships and unleashing your power to manifest the happy, healthy love you desire.
Based on the Law of Attraction, which is the concept that we attract what we're ready to receive, the provocative yet simple forty-nine-day program includes a daily lesson, a corresponding practice, and instructions for putting that lession into action in your life. Manifesting meditations, powerful visualizations, and clarifying journal exercises will lead you to recognize and release your hidden inner obstacles to love and help you grow beyond them. At the end of the course, you will be in the ideal state of mind to go out into the world and find your "One."
An inspirational approach that offers a life-affirming philosophy on relationships, Calling in "The One" is your guide to finding and keeping the love you seek.
Are you frustrated by stymied relationships, missed connections, and the loneliness of the search for someone to spend the rest of your life with? In this classic, updated guide to finding deep happiness in love, licensed marriage and family therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas bridges the gap between wanting to find true love and being truly available to create a fulfilling relationship. Love-seekers today have to deal with a precarious terrain of dating and partnering that seems to encourage a lack of commitment and clarity. Calling in "The One" will empower you to have a radically different experience by shifting your painful patterns in love from the inside out, graduating you from unsatisfying relationships and unleashing your power to manifest the happy, healthy love you desire.
Based on the Law of Attraction, which is the concept that we attract what we're ready to receive, the provocative yet simple forty-nine-day program includes a daily lesson, a corresponding practice, and instructions for putting that lession into action in your life. Manifesting meditations, powerful visualizations, and clarifying journal exercises will lead you to recognize and release your hidden inner obstacles to love and help you grow beyond them. At the end of the course, you will be in the ideal state of mind to go out into the world and find your "One."
An inspirational approach that offers a life-affirming philosophy on relationships, Calling in "The One" is your guide to finding and keeping the love you seek.
Readers Top Reviews
C Michelle H lara
The author is a beautiful writer, this book is art, growth & freedom. I was in awe of how in sync i felt reading this, each section tied in perfectly with the last, i feel more loving and have attracted a wonderful man into my life - thankyou so much, let’s see what happens!
AleC Michelle H l
Ho acquistato questo libro sotto consiglio di un'amica americana e mi sono davvero impegnata nel leggerlo ATTENTAMENTE e nel fare BENE ogni singolo esercizio suggerito. L'ho letto più che altro per una sorta di sfida verso me stessa perchè in 30 anni di vita ero soltanto riuscita a collezionare relazioni brevissime e assolutamente fallimentari e mi domandavo perchè io non riuscivo mai a trovare una persona adatta a me e tutti gli amici attorno a me sì. Mentre leggevo il libro mi sono accorta di molti miei atteggiamenti sbagliati, negativi e di chiusura nei confronti dell'altro sesso e ho deciso di voler approfondire l'origine di questi miei comportamenti e mi sono iscritta al corso intensivo online di 3 giorni tenuto dalla stessa Katherine. Non vi racconto favole e non vi dico che 'come per magia' è apparso davanti a me l'uomo della mia vita MA, dopo tanto lavoro di introspezione personale e di auto-analisi, a distanza di 1 anno ESATTO da quando ho acquistato il libro ho conosciuto il mio attuale fidanzato con cui vivo una relazione sana, equilibrata e totalmente appagante e dal quale mi sento amata e apprezzata come non osavo nemmeno sognare in passato. Leggetelo e fate auto-critica verso voi stesse...cercate dentro di voi il vostro equilibrio e amatevi...come ha funzionato per me, funzionerà anche per voi.
Gabriel AleC Mich
Katherine carries sweetness and honesty in her words and she has developed a systematic way to surpass some old beliefs about ourselves! An pleasant reading for sure!
BCGabriel AleC Mi
I just checked and I had ordered and received this book two years ago, in Nov 2018. It's now almost October 2020 and I just finisher the book today. When I first received it, I thought I would breeze through the book in 7 weeks as the name suggests. But the journey has been different for me. This book is not so much about finding the one, as it is about finding yourself and preparing for love in general. You can't rush self-development, it has its own pace. When I first started working on the book, I used to take long stretches of breaks, I think the longest one was 6 months. When I initially got into the work and the exercises, especially the ones about family, I would have breakdowns and would get physically sick. I have a history of emotional abuse from family and I had gone no contact with them shortly before I ordered this book. Throughout these two years, I've had to do a lot of therapy separate from working on this book. When I picked it up again, I was able to continue without the breakdowns. I also started perceiving the language of the book differently throughout these years as I changed and discovered new facets of myself. Last year, I came to the realization that I'm not heterosexual. So while I dreamt of a handsome kind man and classic husband-wife scenarious when I started the book 2 years ago, these past months I've read everything with the new acknowledgement that love has no gender. Recently I found myself wishing the other used more gender neutral terms for "the one." This book is special and it actually does things to you because the author was sincere. The parts that always resonated the most with me were the parts where they confessed and confided about their own struggles and vulnerability. There is no replacement for authencity and I know how hard it is to be vulnerable and open about the most hurtful tender parts of ourselves and our lives. I appreciate the internal efforts and battles thw author gave in order to be able to write this book. I am still healing and trying to move on from the pains of the past. I don't know if I have finally arrived at the time and place where the life companion I've dreamt of since I was a child arrives. But I do know and feel that whether I find the one or not, what's ultimately most important, is finding myself. I have never stopped trying and I think I'll continue to try for the rest of my life.
ChristineBCGabrie
So I’m big on self improvement books. I’ve read a lot of them. I find books help with my self growth and was excited for this one. I would only recommend this book to someone who is actively ready to do some serious self reflection. It’s more about processing and growing from your past to be there person you want to be now. I would, and have, recommend it to friends who are happily married but wanting to work through stuff with work, family, etc. It really is about trying to heal, be happy and live the life you want. And after you’re at that place you’ll be better equipped to find the right partner. I needed this book to break the cycle of wrong relationships. I was reading a second time when I met my current partner. He is the most amazing person and I’ve never been in a healthier relationship. We’re closing on our first house together at the beginning of June! He definitely is my one :)
Short Excerpt Teaser
Lesson 1
Expanding Your Capacity to Love and Be Loved
If you want to learn to love, then you must start the process of finding out what it is, what qualities make up a loving person and how these are developed. Each person has the potential for love. But potential is never realized without work. -Leo Buscaglia
One reason so many of us do not have the love we are longing for is that we've not yet become the people we will need to be in order to attract and sustain that kind of love. Most of us have dramatically elevated our standards of what we expect from a romantic partner far beyond what our parents or grandparents ever expected from their relationships. Yet we may not have evolved our level of wellness and maturity to the point where we can manifest and maintain the love that we are hoping to create.
Romantic relationships today are a tentative and uncertain thing. In our postmodern world, where serial monogamy is the new norm and more people over fifty are divorced than widowed, no longer is getting married the safe and secure way to go. Whereas once upon a time people tended to stay together for the long haul no matter what, and perhaps even married out of economic and social necessity, we now seek to form long-term unions in an attempt to create authentically soulful and deeply meaningful lives. Yet, much of the time, falling in love means that we end up standing by helplessly as we watch it all slip through our fingers. Why can't we seem to hold on to the glorious transcendence of love? Why can't we seem to harness passion, root it down, and make a home of it?
Some would say that romantic love is an illusion. A trick of nature meant to entice us into procreation. In the aftermath of a devastating breakup, we find ourselves asking, Was he or was he not my soul mate? Was it or was it not real love? The most beautiful moments of our lives become reduced to their lowest common denominator: hormones, lust, and those most dreaded of words-
"It was just infatuation."
Yet many understand, if only intuitively, that romantic love holds a promise that we have yet to fulfill. Instinctively, we know it holds a key to our expansion. Because romantic love has such a profound capacity to bring out the best-and the worst-in us, many of us have identified it as our newest frontier for spiritual growth and development. Rather than calling us into seclusion, the spiritual path now beckons us deeper into the quality of our connections. This premise is the very crux of the relatively new term "spiritual partnership," which describes the relationship that most of us aspire to. What exactly is this new kind of union, and how does it differ from the old paradigm of marriage that our parents and grandparents were looking for? A study was done back in the sixties, where young women attending college were asked, "If you met a man who met all of your criteria for a husband yet you did not love him, would you marry him?" More than 70 percent said yes, they would. In other words, as long as the guy came from a good family, had a job, smelled good, and didn't drink too much, then he must be "The One!" Apparently, the main objectives of the old paradigm were economic stability and morally sanctified sex. Yet what most of us care about today is finding someone who can help us become who we came here to be, and realize the fulfillment of our potential in all areas. Spiritual partnership implies the goal of inspiring and supporting the unfolding of each other's souls in this journey through life.
An intimate relationship today means allowing ourselves to become immersed in knowing and being known fully by another human being, with all of our brilliance, beauty, failures, and flaws. It means learning the terrain and the language of love through a shared commitment to mutual growth and awakening. It means opening our hearts fully and learning how to love in ways that are vulnerable, authentic, and undefended, while at the same time remaining independent and autonomous in ways that would allow us to live 100 percent true to ourselves. It means going beyond the pervasive ideas of our parents' generation that romantic union was about martyrdom and sacrifice, and moving into an experience of romantic love as an invitation to creatively expand by generating inclusive win-win solutions that take everyone's needs, feelings, and desires into account. It means discovering how to be completely responsible for your own feelings and needs by understanding the lens through which you are interpreting, then responding to whatever's happening between yourself and others. It means honoring your own needs and perspec...
Expanding Your Capacity to Love and Be Loved
If you want to learn to love, then you must start the process of finding out what it is, what qualities make up a loving person and how these are developed. Each person has the potential for love. But potential is never realized without work. -Leo Buscaglia
One reason so many of us do not have the love we are longing for is that we've not yet become the people we will need to be in order to attract and sustain that kind of love. Most of us have dramatically elevated our standards of what we expect from a romantic partner far beyond what our parents or grandparents ever expected from their relationships. Yet we may not have evolved our level of wellness and maturity to the point where we can manifest and maintain the love that we are hoping to create.
Romantic relationships today are a tentative and uncertain thing. In our postmodern world, where serial monogamy is the new norm and more people over fifty are divorced than widowed, no longer is getting married the safe and secure way to go. Whereas once upon a time people tended to stay together for the long haul no matter what, and perhaps even married out of economic and social necessity, we now seek to form long-term unions in an attempt to create authentically soulful and deeply meaningful lives. Yet, much of the time, falling in love means that we end up standing by helplessly as we watch it all slip through our fingers. Why can't we seem to hold on to the glorious transcendence of love? Why can't we seem to harness passion, root it down, and make a home of it?
Some would say that romantic love is an illusion. A trick of nature meant to entice us into procreation. In the aftermath of a devastating breakup, we find ourselves asking, Was he or was he not my soul mate? Was it or was it not real love? The most beautiful moments of our lives become reduced to their lowest common denominator: hormones, lust, and those most dreaded of words-
"It was just infatuation."
Yet many understand, if only intuitively, that romantic love holds a promise that we have yet to fulfill. Instinctively, we know it holds a key to our expansion. Because romantic love has such a profound capacity to bring out the best-and the worst-in us, many of us have identified it as our newest frontier for spiritual growth and development. Rather than calling us into seclusion, the spiritual path now beckons us deeper into the quality of our connections. This premise is the very crux of the relatively new term "spiritual partnership," which describes the relationship that most of us aspire to. What exactly is this new kind of union, and how does it differ from the old paradigm of marriage that our parents and grandparents were looking for? A study was done back in the sixties, where young women attending college were asked, "If you met a man who met all of your criteria for a husband yet you did not love him, would you marry him?" More than 70 percent said yes, they would. In other words, as long as the guy came from a good family, had a job, smelled good, and didn't drink too much, then he must be "The One!" Apparently, the main objectives of the old paradigm were economic stability and morally sanctified sex. Yet what most of us care about today is finding someone who can help us become who we came here to be, and realize the fulfillment of our potential in all areas. Spiritual partnership implies the goal of inspiring and supporting the unfolding of each other's souls in this journey through life.
An intimate relationship today means allowing ourselves to become immersed in knowing and being known fully by another human being, with all of our brilliance, beauty, failures, and flaws. It means learning the terrain and the language of love through a shared commitment to mutual growth and awakening. It means opening our hearts fully and learning how to love in ways that are vulnerable, authentic, and undefended, while at the same time remaining independent and autonomous in ways that would allow us to live 100 percent true to ourselves. It means going beyond the pervasive ideas of our parents' generation that romantic union was about martyrdom and sacrifice, and moving into an experience of romantic love as an invitation to creatively expand by generating inclusive win-win solutions that take everyone's needs, feelings, and desires into account. It means discovering how to be completely responsible for your own feelings and needs by understanding the lens through which you are interpreting, then responding to whatever's happening between yourself and others. It means honoring your own needs and perspec...
